How to Accept Being Single for Life

There have been a lot of misconceptions about being single. Sure, some people start being single after breaking up—and hence the idea that single people are sad, bitter, depressed, hopeless…It’s also quite a common premise of a lot of the romantic movies. But is being single really that terrible?

It is quite difficult to generalize since a lifestyle that works for one person does not necessarily work for another. An all-too-common scenario would be that after a breakup and gallons and gallons of tears shed, some people are out and ready to move on to find the next partner.

But there are those who, in their alone time, found that being with themselves is not that bad. It can be quite addicting, actually.

Say, you’re single, have your own place, have your own car, have your own time, and have your own resources—you could think of what interesting things you could do that would make you happy. Without thinking if somebody else would like those too.

Sticking with one’s own preferences

Being single and eating alone could not be a bad idea in the sense that it’d be easier choosing what to eat. Who cares if you had too much garlic or stinky cheese?

If you’re not in a hurry to move on to the next partner, you could explore your own preferences. You would learn what food you really like, what drink you really like, what books or movies or TV shows you really like. You can have more time with your friends and your family.

You would know you are enjoying being single if you find yourself not looking to be in a relationship. You can choose to go (or not go) in places you want to explore (or maybe just explore them in the comforts of your own place through the Internet). You can choose to lead an active and healthy lifestyle, or you can also allow yourself to be a couch potato.

Being single gives you time to see more than yourself and your significant other.

Case-to-case basis

But the above scenario does not apply to every single person. Some people think that even though they have all the resources but can’t still land a partner that there is something wrong with them. They deem themselves undesirable and unlovable, especially if they are surrounded by friends and family members who are in a relationship—and this fact drives the idea further.

It will always be a single person’s choice how to live their lives. There are some who can’t bear to be with themselves alone that they need to move on to the next relationship. There are those that, because they are single, are burdened with family responsibilities (because, hey, they have the time to do them). But the single person must know that the one who can give them the love they want is their own self.